Yay, I Got Out of Bed
I stumbled on this post. The headline grabbed me cuz damn it I know that feeling. But let's not shout about me getting out of bed. Being old and a guy getting up early is necessary if you get my drift. And there is that entire, once the eyes are opened you kinda stare and pretend you got shit to do in a largely empty life devoid of meaning and purpose some days. It is from the Web site My Widowed Heart
The Yay I Got Out of Bed post largely captures that entire crushing time where you don't give a f**** and never want to move. Daisy gets it and addresses it so well. One thing at a time as she counsels. I use that when I'm doing my volunteer crisis counseling and the texter is not feeling motivated. I say that do one thing a small thing anything. Wash your hair, brush your teeth, make a call, etc. Write what you did on a post-it note and put that note in a drawer. Next day do another. In a week or two look in the drawer and see all you've done. It is like a quilt of motivation that will embrace you.
Working Through the Death of a Colleague
I found this in my newsfeed. It's from Harvard Business Review written by Arielle Dance, PhD. It addresses the reality of loosing a colleague and friend at work. This article artfully and brilliantly examines the full spectrum of what happens when a colleague dies and what needs to happen in an office. Or now within a remote working environments. So many amazing tips and ways to navigate grief and loss in the office.
The Best Online Grief Support Groups Available Right Now, Because you Don't Have to Do This Alone
This was published in Parade written by Kimberly Zapata. Her list is amazing, broad, and well researched. These sites are not only for loss of a spouse or a loved one but cover all loss. Children, parents, grandparents, and more. It is well worth the look see, not only for you if you've lost a loved one. It can be shared with those who are loss adjacent for them to better navigate with those of us in grief. The one notable absence here is Hot Young Widows Club. My all time favorite site for grief, support, and community.